Friday, July 18, 2008

The art of Lying!


I am not a firm believer in the proverb 'Honesty is the best policy'. While I'm not denying that lying is morally incorrect, I truly believe that 'cushioning' the truth with a few white lies in our daily lives is more than acceptable.In fact, most lies are harmless. Untruths like 'I can't wait to read your book!', ‘Your pudding is divine', or 'that coat makes you look so handsome' are often told to make someone feel better. These fibs or white lies come up so often that the person on the receiving end can hardly feel betrayed or deceived.Often, people lie or rather exaggerate to get something in return. For instance, I sometimes tell my mother that the food in our office sucks and I’m so tired doing the laundry all by myself over the week. Well... as a matter of fact, the food really does suck and I’m really tired doing the laundryL..!! This never fails to strike a chord of sympathy with her and so I always end up getting royal treatment at home when I visit during the weekend. Now, can you imagine what my day would be like if I didn't say this? I'd be living on bread and biscuits all weekend!!!People also lie at the workplace or at school. Though the old 'the dog ate my homework' routine may not work any more, you might just get away with something else. And who is to say you are 'deceiving' your teacher? A tiny deviation from the truth is nothing to be ashamed of!Thus, deception to a certain extent is justified. In most scenarios, it makes people get along better or sometimes it is just a means to an end. Either ways, as long as there is no serious harm done, I believe a few white lies are imperative for any relationship to flourish.

37 comments:

CutePooja said...

a lie dat doesnt harm ne 1 isnt a lie, at all...i opine...

:)

Arun PK said...

Cutepooja,

So what sort of harmless do u tell??!! :) lol..!!

Gagan said...

Well, I know that the response if I say "Whatever you've written is true" wud be like...."who doesnt know that its true?"

So, I'll shut my mouth in this, and would rather say....that its nic that u brought the truth to everyone's notice....

And yes, if you ever wndered how bad lieing can get you....the best example is to watch a movie called "Big Fat Liar", which, by the way, I am sure that you've seen!

Loved every word you wrote....its all true....OOPS....I finally said the most obvious. Haha.

Arun PK said...

hah :) Gagan, intelligent use of words there.. now tel me if I lied there??!! lol!! :)

Aneesh said...

Aterall, the world has changed a lot, lying is not a sin in modern world. Everyone lies, some accept it, some don't

Saranya said...

Lying for others good which causes no harm is acceptable :)but there are people who lie for no good reason. The dishonest ones!!

Priya Joyce said...

so I completely agree wth u on the fact of hiding truths or cushioning truths.
Its in one way playing with others psychology.
I have put some part of it on my post half truths (that's awful)

BTW thanx 4 commenting.

RiverSoul said...

I would'nt lie just for the sake of lying... But in todays world, white lies are a necessary evil.
And i love your blog.
That aint no white lie bro!
:)

MAN IN PAINTING said...

Arun,
Art is the lie that reveals the truth..Picasso said so.
i loved your post..
very genuine approach...
wishes..
me too have something about lie..
do visit...

Cinderella. said...

I totally agree with the last line...lol !!

And also with your last post...controversial or not, being a woman myself, yet I;d say womane are bad drivers.

As simple a thing as changing lanes, whie a guy will take a smooth cut without almost no effort, a girl will take a dumb ass c-turn and end up sprawled in the middle of the road with vehicles honking left-right-center !!!

Damn irritatin !
Which is why i dont drive...

The Listener said...

Absolutely Bakwaass !!!

How abt this Lie??
;)

rantravereflect/ jane said...

white lies are never too bad.. n yeh, they sumtimes make things more than convenient ;)

'gelatos aren't bad for ya- they're fat free' (but they have sugar n calories!!)

I scribble here said...

hey, i second that..
and imagine.. giving an honest reply to every godamn thing.. such as "the pudding is just abt okay" or " ewwW ..where did u pick up taht coat from!!" hmm :D

I Walk Alone!!! said...

Thanks for visiting my space. Liked the topic being discussed :)

Some white lies are excused, but not lies that are meant to hurt, or lies that are said with some ulterior motives.

Blogrolled ya!!!

Arun PK said...

aneesh,

Thats exactly wat I meant :)

Arun PK said...

Saranya,

I completely agree with :-)

Arun PK said...

Priya,

ohh.. so u ahve been fibbing a lot on ur blogs!! lol!! lemme try to figure out which are the posts u have actually fibbed a li'l :) nunachi :)

Priya Joyce said...

Hey I am not a nunachi I just said I have a similar post on ma blog and tat post is called half truths.
I hope u were kidding.

Arun PK said...

riversoul,

Thanks for the comments mate :)
:)

Arun PK said...

Man in Painting,

great quote by picasso :)
Thanks for the comments.. i did visit ur blog.. good job :)

Arun PK said...

Cinderella,

Very true :)kep visitin :)

Arun PK said...

priys,

sorry..lol :).. i thot u were sayin that u sometimes posted half truths in ur blogs... haha.. about callin u a nunachi i was only kiddin ... :)

ani said...

thanks for visiting my blog..

this is such an amazing topic to write about.. hehe art of lying..
well i do think lying if it doesnt hurts others sentiment .. yess telling a white lie is good..

but then sometimes u do have to tell the truth how much ever tht hurts..

Arun PK said...

I walk alone,

Thanks for the comments, blogrolled ya too! :)

Rajesh said...

Well...Arun...superb yaar...I completely accept... Cushioning the truth with lies...lol...was very nice.. Blog rolling U :)

P.S: Do visit my blog

ani said...

forgot to mention.. am blog rolling u.. :)

Sunshine said...

I totally agree with you...but sometimes its just sooooo difficult to come up with a good lie and you just end up smiling an nodding ;)

My Musings said...

Honesty. I honestly don’t know what people mean by this. Can honesty be an umbrella term which includes all kinds in different contexts on various occasions of life, It’s like how far you’re truly accountable to your self on all your deeds.
So abstract for a word, I (humbly) believe lying is a part of growing up, if you’ve not lied, then it must be truly something.
“ few white lies are imperative for a relationship to flourish, Agreed, but not the kind of well intended lies.

And mothers do have a way. She exactly knows when her kid is honest and when he/she is not. She wouldn’t mind for she knows her child best!!!

ANWESA said...

without lies,truth wud b dull!!!

Arun PK said...

Rajesh,

thanks for the comments n the blogroll :)

Arun PK said...

ani,

i totally agree there r situations where u cannot lie. I was only talkin about occasional harmless white lies :)

Arun PK said...

my musings,

nice use of words there:)but i dont really believe that lying is a part of growing up!

Arun PK said...

sunshine,

haha... totally agree :)

Arun PK said...

anweesa,
Absolutely!! thats wat i meant by "cushioning" :)

My Musings said...

by that i meant not those serious lies intended to decieve, fake or hurt, but just for fun and to escape from scoldings at times as when we were kids!!!!

Arun PK said...

my musings :).. i completely agree :)

Keshi said...

But big scary pathetic lies should be avoided at all times :)

Keshi.